My birthday is this week, on Wednesday, March 29, I turn 37. And ya’ll, I am not taking it that well. Just saying the number makes me sad, it’s not even that big of a number, or even a milestone… it just hits me wrong. Granted I’ve done a lot in 37 years, and over the last year, I’ve changed myself dramatically, both mentally and physically. And yet, the number still bugs me. I talk a little more about it over at Fredericksburg Parent. I decided, this entire week, I’m going to wear the clothes that make me feel like I’m in it to win it. Starting with yesterday’s outfit, this was my brunch outfit. For the rest of the days this week, I will be Talking about and sharing those in another post.
Maybe it’s just a passing feeling and in a few weeks I’ll be over it and settling in to my new number. Or maybe someone should tell my grey hairs and wrinkles to calm down. It doesn’t help that my husband is four years younger then me, either. It just makes 37 that much worse.
So, while I was trying to think about what to write for this post, the only thing that I could think of was to share a few style lessons and funny quips to try to cheer myself up.
- Never ask your husband to bring “your black heels” without giving him exact details about which black heels, unless you want your entire black shoe collection brought to your living room.
- If you ask your kids’ opinion on which shoe or which outfit, be prepared for them to each pick a different one, thereby leaving you to choose which child’s feelings get hurt because you didn’t pick their choice.
- If you ask your husband to pick an outfit, he will choose the lowest cut/shortest one, and ask about your underwear choices.
- It’s almost always ok to go for cute over practical. Unless it’s -25 degrees and you’re trying to dress like it’s 85. At that point, maybe just stay home.
- If you are a stay at home mom, and you wear clothes that aren’t athleisure or pajamas to school drop off, people will ask you why you are so “dressed up”, and if you work.
- Always have a “reject chair” where all of your rejected outfits go when they aren’t good enough for the day. It’s like a timeout chair, but for misbehaving clothing. It’s oddly satisfying.
And the most important, so important that it deserves it’s on paragraph and not thrown in with the other bulleted things. Don’t ever let anyone steal your confidence. Don’t ever let them dim your light. I don’t care how old you are, don’t let anyone say “you’re too old to wear that”. I don’t care what size you wear, don’t let anyone tell you “you shouldn’t wear that”. I’m guilty of questioning myself all the time, of asking wether I’m too old to wear something. Case in point, this was my outfit for our date night Saturday…
I questioned some of my friends in my outfit of the day group, wether I was too old for a crop top. The response was overwhelmingly no, so that was a relief. But really, why should it matter? If anyone tells you that you aren’t good enough for something, or that you shouldn’t wear something… you tell them “that’s cute…watch me”. Life is too short to not wear the crop top, it’s too short to question yourself. So, that’s my goal for the year ahead of me. To stop questioning myself, to stop allowing my confidence to rest in someone else’s hands. Care to join me? I’ll share my birthday cake!
Stay tuned for a post about what I wore for my birthday week! And remember to check out my post over at Fredericksburg Parent