Photographing a photographer

Todays post is a little off topic, but I think it’s relevant.  You might know that I am a family and newborn photographer here in Fredericksburg, Va., check out my photo work here.  I spend a lot of weekends working with amazing families and snuggling tiny babies.  My job is truly rewarding, I love what I do.  But what happens when I need someone to take a picture of my outfit for my style blog?

Chaos.  That’s what happens.  My husband is often the one that I ask to take my picture so I can have decent, non bathroom mirror selfies for my blog.  To be fair, photographing a photographer is hard! I feel for him, because I can be very critical.  Almost always we end up arguing because I want him to retake the photo so I don’t look like a half crazed lunatic standing like my leg is broken or missing.  It’s what I do as a photographer, I’m constantly adjusting either myself, or my client, to get the best angle.  I don’t merely stand and click.

He is learning though.  This week we did some photos downtown since the kids were at their grandparents house. With my coaching, he actually got a lot of decent shots!

Keep in mind that I chose the spots and I have to kind of direct myself, he has to show me what the picture looks like before we can move on… it’s a process. Often, I have to remind him not to have poles or trees coming out of my head, and to tell me if I look weird.  Although, giving him permission to tell me I look weird wasn’t my best idea.  He sort of took to giving me the “what the hell are you doing look” and telling me not to sit or stand that way.  It had me hoping that I’m not as demanding with my clients 🙂

I’ve also asked my kids to take my photo when we are at home and the husband isn’t around. The trouble with that is they are young, and are only 3 feet tall, so for those pictures I have to sit. Both kids are good at taking my picture, but my little girl (she’s 4) has really taken to it.  I think she wants to be a photographer when she grows up.  Here’s one of her pictures.

Sometimes she directs me to sit a certain way.  And she always takes a bunch of photos before she will bring me the phone to see.  Then she asks me if I am going to keep them. Of course I will… just maybe not all 100 of them.

Some day I hope to hire a professional photographer (you know because I AM one and I know the value that they bring) to follow me around and take my photos with multiple outfit changes. Until then, I will settle for the photos that my husband and kids take with my iPhone photos.



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I have a secret, I plan ahead

My guest post this week over at (Fredericksburg Parent)  is about how I plan all of my outfits ahead of time.

(A recent planned outfit)

I find that it really helps relieve the stress and craziness of my mornings. The mornings have me like…

(Coffee first, or I’ll cut you)

The struggle is real without coffee. I wish I had a sign that I could tape to my forehead that said “if I haven’t had coffee yet, don’t speak “. And that, my stylish friends, is why you need to plan your outfits. I usually plan up to two weeks out. I explain it all (here). And I have another tool…Pinterest.


Do you all use Pinterest?!? No, I’m not asking for pintresty ideas to organize the mess that is my kids playroom (I’ve already tried DIYing my own storage crates out of toothpicks and dust bunnies, but it didn’t meet my needs. Pinterest fail) I’m asking because you can use it to help plan your outfits. Yes, you can! It’s not just for crafty things and DIY projects. I often check Pinterest if I’m at a loss for something to pair with a top or a new way to wear my faux leather leggings (yes ma’am, I said faux leather leggings). Let’s say you really want to wear your new leopard pattern cardigan. Simply put in the search area “leopard pattern cardigan outfit” and whalaa!!! Magical Pinterest treasure trove of outfit inspiration!! It might also work the other way, let’s say you have a pair of lime green polka dotted Capri pants but Pinterest pulls up zero. That means one of two things, you are the lucky owner of a unique one of a kind item, OR they are out of style and you need to let those bad boys go to the donate pile. Unless when you held it, it gave you joy (hi, KonMari fans) then maybe repurpose them into kitchen towels or something. Now I’m currently searching Pinterest for diy kitchen towels.

For this outfit, I did a Pinterest search for “white dress outfit” and I found that I had all the pieces that I needed to recreate the outfit.  Score!!


I hope that you find planning your outfits ahead of time to be helpful.  And if you’re reading this before you’ve had coffee…I won’t take offense if even the mere thought of planning irritates you. I’ll simply hand you your coffee and back away, just don’t cut me.


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When music and style collide

It’s a rare occasion when I am not listening to music, it’s one of my greatest joys, besides my family, of course.  My brain is jam packed with song lyrics and band names.  I often find myself singing and even dancing to songs that I hear while running errands. Once, while in a store with my daughter, she was 3 at the time, Taylor Swifts song Shake it Off came on and my daughter started dancing and singing.  She made everyone around her smile.  And that’s the thing about music, it does things to you.  It has the power to change your mood, to help you up when you are down, to give you confidence and joy even sadness and anger.

And so does fashion. The two are connected, they both have the power to change you, to bring you to life, to make you feel.

It’s the art of expression.  Both music and fashion express who we are, wether you realize it or not.  I’ve often been told that I have a “vibe”. And, for the longest time I didn’t understand what people meant, heck I still don’t.  I guess it’s that edginess that I have? My pink hair? Is it that I love to wear black? I don’t know.  But I’m sure my style has something to do with it. And possibly my absolute love for Bon Jovi… seriously I LOVE Bon Jovi.  It’s an essential part of my “vibe”. I can relate almost any life situation to a Bon Jovi song, #howmanytimescanisayBonJovi?!?

Music and fashion are both very personal. Everyone has their own tastes for both (ahem Bon Jovi). I’ve never been much of a music snob, I sort of listen to whatever I happen to be in the mood for.  Same with fashion.  Of course, I tend to stick to my edgy stuff, but that’s not to say that I don’t enjoy a decent frilly dress sometimes too.

And then there’s the times when I combine music and fashion into an outfit…literally. Like a collision of two joys. Take this Rolling Stones shirt, and The Beatles shirt above, for example.

This Let it Bee shirt is also a nod to The Beatles… and I may or may not have a “Livin’ on a Prayer” shirt coming soon, because BON JOVI.


So why not let your love of music and fashion collide.  Band shirts or other music related shirts can be fun! Try pairing them with pencil skirts (watch your proportion and either tuck or knot the shirt if it’s too long or not tight enough) or faux leather leggings. Or even skinny jeans with booties or heels. I love mine with a bit of edge, but you don’t have to.  Be one with your vibe and be fearless.  Crank the music up (I don’t care what it happens to be) and dance, sing, express yourself and be stylish. And BON JOVI

Have any amazing music for me to listen to? Please let me know!!!